By Sam Makhoul
Today we will cover the remaining two bad habits you need to replace. I share these with you without judgement.
We all drift in the direction of our bad habits, but by having a system for behavioural change, you can replace these habits with better ones. And so, I humbly share this content with you in the hope it will make a BIG difference in your life as it has in mine.
Bad Habit #1 – Doing Things With Haste For No Apparent Reason
In a fast world, people are now addicted to speed. This is a destructive habit that will destroy your health and relationships.
Eating, driving, working, making love, scrolling, reading, texting….everything done in haste for no apparent reason puts a lot of pressure on you and ironically makes you slow, sick and stupid. I say this with the utmost respect.
The science clearly shows that when you do things with haste the stress you put on your mind and body ironically slows you down and makes you ineffective. And the stress hormones (especially adrenalin and cortisol) surging through your system make you physically sick over time.
It will impair your digestion, you will not absorb what you eat, you will have trouble sleeping, and it’s a downhill spiral from there. A lot of people use exercise as a therapy to neutralise the effects of speed-induced-stress but the better method is to SLOW DOWN!
There is usually no reason to speed up. Almost everything we do day-to-day can wait or be done in a slower, methodical manner.
There is not one piece of research showing any benefit whatsoever from doing things quickly. As the godfather of the slow movement, Carl Honore says, “I am not anti-speed but there is a time for doing things quickly and time for slow living.”
How Do You Know You Are Addicted To Speed?
- You get a rush from meeting self-imposed deadlines.
- You find it difficult to sit and do nothing for more than 10 minutes.
- You find it difficult to focus and listen to what the other person is saying.
- You need alcohol to relax and constantly crave carbs/sweets.
- You find it difficult to notice the beauty around you. Or you are numb to it.
Speed is an addiction. If you’re used to running on adrenalin, you will feel strange without it.
Here Are Some Tips To Wean Yourself Off Speed:
- Don’t do more than one thing at a time.
- Don’t take call waiting – in fact, you should disable this feature.
- Don’t schedule too many meetings in a day.
- Take at least 2 renewal breaks throughout the day to stretch, breath and meditate for 5 – 15 minutes.
- Don’t take on too much work. Learn to say ‘no’.
- Take a walk after work, preferably in nature. Go alone.
Bad Habit #2 – Watching TV till late for no apparent reason
A surprisingly high percentage of adults get too comfortable in front of the television and mindlessly surf channels or binge. They use this to wind down and induce sleep.
The problem with this is two-fold. Firstly, it delays your optimal going-to-bed sleep time, which depending on your chrono-type is between 9:30 pm -11 pm.
(Don’t know your chronotype? Refer to my articles on sleep starting with: How To Get The Best Sleep). Secondly, the artificial light from the TV may lull your eyes to get tired but it ironically delays the release of the sleep-inducing hormone, melatonin; because the light tricks your body-clock into thinking it is still daytime.
You need melatonin not only to get to sleep but to get deeper sleep; deep sleep is the most important part of your sleep cycle which detoxes your mind, body and emotions. It is the single most potent factor for you to look younger and live longer.
The Simple Solution:
We set an alarm to wake up, why not set an alarm for sleep. My meditation app Headspace has a feature which prompts you with a notification to go to bed and listen to a sleep cast, which is the equivalent of a bedtime story.
Don’t laugh, it works! Plugin your earphones in bed and I guarantee you will nod off in record time!