By Sam Makhoul
This article is part of a series in our academy’s four-five-six system – four rituals, five habits and six life-hacks – for daily living. Systems like this are powerful because they do not rely on motivation.
Whether you wake up feeling like crap or down on something, this daily system will keep you on track. What most of us don’t realise is that everyone on the planet experiences issues, setbacks and disappointments, some are just better equipped at managing them.
We have covered the four daily rituals in detail in past articles; see below. Now we swing into the five daily habits that will absolutely revolutionise your life.
If you are new to our community and have not read the rituals it is preferable you do so. Why?
Because it will be difficult for you to instil these new habits without the four daily rituals as your foundation.
Ritual #1 – Journaling – is the conversation you have to hold yourself accountable.
Ritual #2 – Movement – gets you out of your head and into your body where the state of pure consciousness lives.
Ritual #3 – Meditation – teaches you to be mindful and conscious of your thoughts.
Ritual #4 – Learning – helps you grow so you continuously tweak your habits and life hacks.
We know, we know. That is a lot of reading.
But do you remember how many hours and effort you put at school, learning Shakespeare or trigonometry? Or at university getting your degree?
How much more important are you than what you do? Your identity is not defined by what you do, but who you are.
So please take the time to learn about yourself. The ancient sears instructed us to know thy self. Why is this important?
In our personal experiences, our lives started improving dramatically when we began to learn about ourselves. That process of self-discovery is where you will discover and unleash your talents and skills.
This in turn boosts your performance in all eight areas of your life, including your work or business. Here’s how:
The Power Of 5 Daily Habits:
We live in an era of self-actualisation where everybody has dreams but so few work on their goals. The difference?
Dreams live in the heart. They ignite passion and excitement.
Goals live in the mind. Goals are what you need to work on to achieve your dreams. (Some people describe dreams as ‘end goals’).
A dream may be to finish a degree. But the daily goals are the lectures you need to attend, the texts you have to read, the assignments you need to complete and the exams you need to pass.
A dream may be to have a loving intimate relationship. But the daily goals are the dates you need to schedule, the hours you need to listen and the support you need to give, the tolerance you need to show in times of stress and conflict.
A dream may be to have a fit and sculpted body. But the daily goal is to show up to the gym or park or oval, the waking early or staying up late to train, shopping, preparing and eating an athletic-engineered diet.
We outline this because people confuse goals with dreams. Why is it important for you to know the difference?
Goals are the tough stuff you need to do daily. Everybody gets pumped up on the dream but then lose motivation on the day to day goals they need to achieve.
So, they give up…Enter habits.
Habits are much more powerful than motivation. Habits are what drives the performance of your goals.
Habits are what gets you through the tough stuff. The work. The grind. The setbacks. The rejections. The disappointments. The energy dips. The sore and sick moments.
Why Do Humans Have Daily Habits?
Habits are an automation tool of the subconscious mind. Through the repetition of an act (that yields a reward), humans are wired to delegate tasks from the conscious mind to the subconscious mind so they end up performing a task without really thinking about it.
This delegation frees the conscious mind up to focus on new experiences, new ideas, creativity, and other important functions. You don’t want to use the conscious mind to tie your shoelaces or brush your teeth.
Waste of attention bandwidth, right? But what if we can use habits to automate actions that are tough but good for us? Really good for us.
Habits that will help you power through the toughest of times. They will get you to show up every time, rain hail or shine. Before we reveal the first important habit you must be wondering….
How Do You Cultivate A New Habit?
Through repetition and reward. Neuroscientists tell us that it takes two lunar cycles to cultivate a new habit. Roughly 60-odd days.
So, at first, it is tough but as you repeat an action it gets easier and easier. You need to persist and have willpower at first.
But to make it easier, habits will yield a strong emotional reward and this is a critical element that makes you more inclined to repeat it until you cross what scientists call the line of automaticity. This is the point where this new task goes from the conscious to the subconscious.
From there the task (and life) gets easier, not because you do not experience issues and challenges, but because you will have the toolset to deal with them. The first habit is…..
Why You Needs To Make Smiling A Daily Habit:
Smile on waking and smile all day. Smile as soon as you open your eyes to greet a new day.
Did you know that people who walk around with a ready-smile:
- Are more attractive and charismatic.
- Have more confidence.
- Are more trusted by customers or clients.
- Are less likely to have arguments and conflicts.
- Are more persuasive and influential.
- Make better leaders.
- Have happier children and families.
- Are more productive at work.
- Are much less likely to suffer from seriousness, anxiety and depression.
- Have lower blood pressure.
- Live longer!
Smiling even boosts your immune system! The science of how our physiology impacts our thoughts and feelings has been established by many researchers.
And there is countless research specifically on the benefits of smiling (even forced smiling). But the most interesting is recent research by the University of Cardiff that showed even people who could not frown due to botox injections were happier on average than those who could frown.
Why Is Smiling On Waking Important?
The simple act of smiling on waking will set the tone for the next 16 waking hours. Science tells us that the first few seconds after we wake and the feeling we wake with stays with us all day.
How Can You Reward This Habit – So It Gets Repeated?
The benefits of smiling listed above will be reward enough. But to make it even easier here are some powerful tips.
- Watch or listen to comedy before you go to bed – preferably before the last hour.
- Hang out with people that are fun or funny. There is a tonne of research on the law of attraction and human mimicking behaviour. There is a tonne more showing that the majority of women prefer to marry or live with a partner who has a great sense of humour.
- Do more fun things in your day. For a detailed list of how to have fun, read my blog, Yes but are you having fun?
How Do I Smile Without Appearing Creepy?
It comes down to time and place. There is a time to be serious and a time for humour.
There is a difference between child-like and childish. There is a difference between wit and just plain inappropriate conduct.
And just like any other habit you create, the more you practice smiling, the more natural it will start to feel. And then you will find yourself smiling out of pure joy. It’s not about faking it until you make it, it is about faking it until you start to become it.
Want to read the rest of this series? You can find them here:
- Ritual #1 – Journaling
- Ritual #2 – Movement
- Ritual #3 – Meditation
- Ritual #4 – Learning
